Healing: A Rollercoaster Ride

Why is healing so tough, taking forever and sometimes feels like you’re not getting anywhere?

I’ve been there trust me. It’s a painstaking journey and I want you to have an idea of what to expect during your healing journey because it can help you. The following is important.

Healing is not about reaching a final destination, it is a process and maybe a long one at that but it is worth it.

Through it all you will become a different person, stronger, resilient and wiser. Healing is a transformation from the inside out and it takes time. You will come to see that everything that happened to you happened for a reason, even if at the time you can’t see it yet. Your perspective will change and you will also begin to have a clearer vision of what you want out of life.

It gets easier when you stop fighting the past and finally accept everything that has happened to you. When you can release the pain and learn to forgive others and yourself, you are making room in your heart for good things to come in and flourish. Love and peace will eventually flow through you again and it will come to stay, because you have made the decision to do so.

My healing journey has been one heck of a rollercoaster ride and of course at the time I had no idea what to expect. It was erratic, unpredictable and I desperately wanted it to be over. It was incredibly frustrating. I would get mad at myself for getting mad about the past. I could be feeling good one morning and be in complete misery in the same night, crying myself to sleep. I would have days where my heart would be bursting with love and forgiveness and come next morning I would fall right back into the pits of depression for weeks. Like a rollercoaster, my emotions were constantly going up and down and I couldn’t bear it. I didn’t understand how healing could be so tough. Now I look back and see that I had to experience the pains in all its glory to finally be able to let it go.

So here I am telling you to expect the pain to come up over and over again but don’t lose hope each time it does, I promise you it gets easier. The pain coming up is a good way for you to learn how to process the pain and release it. Nowadays I can just breathe through any emotional pain, process it and consciously release it. When in the past it would stay with me for weeks, now it stays for about one day to a few days at most. The past doesn’t affect me like it used to, I won’t allow it and one day it’ll be the same for you. Don’t allow it to linger for too long, consciously make the decision to do something about it and most importantly, focus on the present. When you are fully focused on the present, there is no room for anything else.

When you hit a low point, do not resist any pain that comes up, remember that whatever you resist, persists. Until today, I still have to deal with the people who hurt me and every week the past is in my face again. It’s tough but I can handle it so much better now because every week I have to re-release any pain that re-surfaces. Imagine this happening almost every week for the last 7 years, I should be an expert by now! I talk about triggers in my article, Why do we hold on to pain? and that we should try our best to minimize the triggers of the past. This helped me. Over time, the fluctuations of my emotions would stabilize and the rollercoaster ride was finally slowing down, thank God.

I knew I had progressed in my healing journey when I could talk about my past lightheartedly and without provoking any emotion or tearing up like I used to. I remember I was speaking to a woman about my story a while ago and she came back to me with a “Why aren’t you angry about this?” and she was so baffled with my calm demeanor. I just smiled back at her. I don’t blame her, how could she have known right? Of the daily struggles, the years of internal battles, tears, pain, anger, shame, heartaches, sadness and frustration. I was at the stage too where I didn’t have to convince her or anyone of what I had been through. It was a great achievement to reach this point of my healing journey.

Below are some things to expect in your healing journey that are good to know. I wish I had known some of these beforehand to get a better idea of what to expect. I hope these help you, even if just a little bit.

What you need to know:

• Healing is not linear and can be a rollercoaster ride.
• Healing is not a race and there are no shortcuts.
• Healing is a decision only you can take, no one can force it upon you.
• Healing can be a slow, arduous process that you just have to push through.
• Healing brings you emotional freedom and peace.
• Healing requires love and forgiveness towards yourself and others.
• Healing requires patience and perseverance.
• Healing can be subtle. Never underestimate the power of healing even if you don’t feel it’s working.
• Healing is not relying on others to heal you, healing must come from within.
• Healing is transformation from the inside out.
• Healing is love and love is healing.

Healing does not mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives.

Anonymous

Asking the Angels for help

Archangel Raphael is my go to angel when I am feeling down. He is well known throughout history as the angel of healing. He is associated with an emerald green color and has a soothing, calming energy. Call for him to be by your side when you are feeling low and in need of comfort. He helps with all types of healing whether physical or emotional and can help with anything else in general. Sometimes I call for him at bedtime to heal me throughout the night as I sleep. Call upon your Guardian Angel too for healing, support and guidance. Remember they want to help you, all you have to do is ask. Do read my article Why do we have Guardian Angels? to learn more about your guardian angels.

I wish you the best on your healing path, take it one baby step at a time. Sending you so much love!

Shirley xx